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Yes there definitely are good ones out there! Its a bit of a nrhtgmaie trying to find one though, the best advice is to keep going out, having a laugh & you'll meet someone great when you least expect it.I think it happens more when one isn't looking, because then they're more attractive to guys, for some crazy reason. I think loads of guys are afraid of being trapped' or pinned down, classic commitment issues, but its perpetuated by the way their male peer group talk about girls,they have this idea that women are out on a mission to pin them into a relationship-when I started going out with my BF recently, his mates were like oh yeah shes definitely interested in a relationship, watch out'-whereas in reality I was only interested in a relationship if I really liked the guy & it worked & having a relationship was fun-For guys, its game over' or something when that happens-I dunno if this is making any sense!I find that attitude offensive especially since from a longer term perspective, men actually do better out of marriage than women-from a physical and mental health perspective. Hypocrites! In relation to meeting Irish guys, they're very shy & the ones who aren't shy-they could be a bit of a player, which is shit-so watch out for those-although they could also just be OK with rejection, as in, able to take it & able to approach girls, but not necessarily assholes. The fact that we don't have a dating system makes it hard to meet people-personally I find the fact that guys just go up and ask you out in the States kind of terrifying-what do you say when you dont want to!!! In my experience in Ireland, if a guy approaches you in a sober way to ask you for a drink or something, then he's practically in love with you.Fear of rejection is a big problem. Also some guys have an ancient bullshit idea that if a girl asks them out, then shes easy-though some guys love to be asked out. I find its best to be friendly and have the craic with lads,and if they like you, they'll have the confidence to put themselves out there. Also, as I'm sure you know, guys will have the craic & the slag (and a bit of a flirt) even if they have wives or girlfriends, which can be confusing if you're single. When my friend from the UK moved here she couldn't believe that guys who had girlfriends or who weren't interested in her would talk to her-it made me afraid of what London is like!In relation to guys that cheat-I read your post on some of those scumbags you had met-I have a theory that there's a few different types of guys that cheat-one type have serious mental health issues, with chronically low self esteem but cover it up with an external display of bravado, but they have to score to get top-ups for their self esteem-even if they are in love with their GF-these guys cheat again & again & will probably never be able to be faithful. Other guys are bored or unhappy in the relationships and cheat when opportunities arrive-as a distraction-they don't necessarily go outlooking for it.They are unable to address the problems in their relationship. A third type cheat because they are trying to spoil a relationship because they're too cowardly to just break it up-they have to make it really crappy first. There may be more types, I just haven't met them yet (thankfully!).I'd be very interested on a post about gender roles, I'm very interested in how people from other countries view how we are here. Sorry for the long rant!